tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4008431297455471455.post3397564325598968859..comments2010-10-04T23:51:51.053-07:00Comments on When The Curtain Falls: 30 of pain and pleasureAmanda Christine Wonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08427559562537727580noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4008431297455471455.post-52593104072234608022009-01-28T08:49:00.000-08:002009-01-28T08:49:00.000-08:00Oprah Winfrey used to be abused by a relative of h...Oprah Winfrey used to be abused by a relative of hers. She spoke openly about it a few years back and i remember her saying that not all sexual abuse is violent. Most of the time its actually pleasurable to the child especially since they didn't know that its wrong to begin with. Think that this is better for the child than violent sexual abuse? Wrong! Eventually when the child gets older and goes to school, they will eventually realise that the intimate actions that they had shared with their abusive relative or family member is abnormal and wrong. They will feel guilty for responding concentually towards the abuse. The shame prevents them from going to others and after stewing on that realization long enough they would have replyed everything in their mind over and over again until somehow they twisted the reality and feel as if they are to be blamed, that the abuse was their fault somehow and that they 'deserved it'. Some are able to claw out of this dark and seemingly endless tunnel of guilt and self-blame. Unfortunately, many do not and they handle it differently. Some may abuse their own bodies by sleeping around because they feel that they do not deserve a respectful and secure relationship. Some, on the other hand, may swear off men completely.Phy https://www.blogger.com/profile/13008178556817646979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4008431297455471455.post-6297419093715731412008-03-29T22:19:00.000-07:002008-03-29T22:19:00.000-07:00Your view somehow makes my eyes opened wider as it...Your view somehow makes my eyes opened wider as it should be! Yeah, they seems to have more sex after being abused, right? I don't get it-I just don't. I think Mala is very lucky to have her fiance by her side to help her. Most of sexually abused children refused to get help and some of them do not have anyone to help them-very unfortunate. Sadly, those who could not ask for help often ended up sleeping 6 feet under!Liza Arniatyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05828968147112963911noreply@blogger.com